Information

Emotional wounds that parents cause on their children

Emotional wounds that parents cause on their children

As adults, when we choose to embark on the journey of motherhood or fatherhood, we must take responsibility for raising emotionally healthy children.

Physical health is essential to function properly in the world and enjoy life, it is true, but mental health or psychological strength is no less important. Instead, it is often relegated to the background. Nevertheless, there are emotional wounds that parents can cause on their children.

It is true that being parents is not an easy task. It is perhaps one of the most difficult jobs we face in our lifetime. It is a 24-hour job, there are no vacations possible, it involves commitment and continuous care, great responsibility is assumed and, of course, it is not a paid job. How difficult it is to be a father!

Not making mistakes during the parenting period is impossible if we start from the basis that we are imperfect beings. In addition, the accelerated pace of life in which we are immersed does not allow us, on many occasions, to see clearly what is happening in our environment or to act from calm and temperance, but quite the opposite.

Most parents operate on 'autopilot' mode. Many times we carry out the tasks, activities and obligations of the day to day in a robotic way without going further or without paying attention to what is really important. But, it is normal, Western society is the society of rush and we cannot stop to act calmly and with moderation on many occasions. This hectic pace of life, on many occasions, prevents us from giving all the attention and affection that our children deserve. And many of the mistakes that we make with our children are, in most cases, the consequence of not having enough time to attend to them.

But, we cannot allow our personal circumstances (stress, anxiety, overwork, problems at work, relationship problems, the birth of a new child, etc.) to make us lose our bearings and we make the mistake of emotionally hurting our children.

We have to put all our affection so as not to cause emotional wounds in our childrens. If a child has experienced a problem, conflict or situation of great emotional charge during his childhood, it is possible that this fact generates an emotional wound. And, this memory can carry over into adulthood.

Children should not have painful experiences that end up causing emotional wounds. Therefore, as parents we must assume the responsibility of raising emotionally healthy children.

The affective bond that is established between the parents and the child during childhood is extremely important, since it is the basis on which the child begins to build his "I". For this reason, the behaviors that parents direct towards their children and the affective relationship they establish with them, directly influences the way in which the child will relate to other people in the future.

But what can cause emotional wounds in children?

- Have rejecting attitudes towards the child: Not accepting children as they are. And, instead, show rejection attitudes towards the child or towards some aspect of himself. The child grows up in a disabling environment in which he does not feel loved or accepted. A child who feels rejected by his parents is likely that during adolescence and adulthood he has no interest in establishing links with other people and is elusive. That is, you will surely avoid socializing.

- Not paying enough attention or emotional abandonment: Parents do not respond to the emotional needs of their children. The child may feel abandoned. Parents are often physically by the child's side but are absent. They don't pay attention to it. Children become invisible to them. These children fear being alone so most likely they will become adults with dependent behaviors, that is, they "need" to be with other people to be emotionally well.

- Humiliate the child in private and / or public: Having attitudes of humiliation towards the child directly threatens his dignity. It causes them to feel anxious, ashamed and helpless and, in turn, encourages the child to value himself in a negative way and to adopt a submissive attitude.

You can read more articles similar to Emotional wounds that parents cause on their children, in the category of Self-esteem on site.


Video: Complex PTSD: Four Stages of Healing  Toxic Parents, Childhood Trauma (November 2021).